Travelling as a couple for the last 5 months has been incredible. It is amazing to be able to share such unbelievable experiences with your partner and best friend but being together 24/7 comes with a learning curve. We have been asked a few times our thoughts on travelling together for so long so, here are the top 5 lessons we have learned about travelling as a couple.
1.Allow your partner to have a bad day
Bad days can happen even in the most amazing of destinations. Travelling can be stressful and things don’t always go as planned. While it is amazing 95% of the time, there will also be disappointments. When it happens that one of us is having a bad day or is upset about something, it is important to allow them to feel what they are feeling and not take it personally. It has happened during our travels that one of us was feeling tired and was generally not in a good mood and we have learned that those days are okay and you just have to let it be and it will get better. A little empathy, understanding and patience goes a long way in situations like that.
2.Mistakes will happen, don’t look for blame
Someone forgot to set the alarm and your morning is ruined? Someone made a mistake with a booking and your plans have to change? Someone gave the wrong directions and made your travel time twice as long?
Those things will happen. Perfection does not exist when it comes to travelling. Your partner is never going to purposely do something to make your day worse, so why waste your energy making them feel bad about their mistake. One big lesson we have learned is that looking for blame only makes a situation worse. Even when you are frustrated, think twice about whether your comment is going to help or make the situation better, and if the answer is no, keep it for yourself, take a deep breath and remember you both have the same goal.
3.Stressful situations will make your couple stronger
Before leaving home, we had many people ask us if we were worried that travelling together 24/7 for a year could disrupt our relationship. We were never worried until those first few weeks of travel where we realized that it is hard to constantly be faced with the new and potentially uncomfortable situations that come with long-term travel. Over time, we have learned to embrace those situations and the misunderstandings that they might cause because it has only taught us more about each other and has made our relationship stronger.
4.Your partner’s problems are your problems
When you depend on each other every single day, problems never belong to only one person anymore. Compromise becomes more important than ever. You will want to see and do different things and you have to find a way to make sure you are both satisfied with the plans you are making. If one person is happy and the other is disappointed or upset, it will affect you both. Making sure both people feel listened to and taken into consideration is what we have found has made the biggest impact. You will never be able to see and do it all but as long as both partners feel like they were equally part of the decision-making process, you will be able to come up with a good compromise.
5.Alone time is okay
There is no need to feel bad about wanting some time to yourself. Alone time can mean that you split up and do something different for a couple of hours but it can also mean that you take some time to do something for yourself without having to separate. For us it became something as simple as putting earphones in and listening to music on the beach side by side, reading a book next to each other, or waking up earlier to go for a jog or do an outdoor workout before heading out for the day.
Thanks for reading!
Lots of Love,
Ben and Bianca